Being a bridesmaid is an amazing honor. (Hence why we’ve dedicated a blog to it.) But people often forget that it’s not just an honor – it’s a task. It’s not as passive as people make it out to be. This means that it’s possible to make some pretty embarrassing bridesmaid errors. Here are the common ones that you need to avoid!
Agreeing to do it in the first place
This, of course, isn’t a mistake for most bridesmaids. But some only agree to be a bridesmaid because they were asked to do so – without actually being ready or prepared to sacrifice the time and money that being a brilliant bridesmaid entails! We have an article here about this very topic. Take the time to ensure you’re really ready to become a bridesmaid. It’s more demanding than a lot of people expect!
As a bridesmaid, part of your duty is to support the bride-to-be throughout the process. However stressful this process is for you, it’s bound to be much more so for her! Try to keep a level head. Yes, you may run into a bunch of problems, but it might be best if you don’t bother the bride with them too much. If there’s some bridesmaid drama, then try to ensure it’s resolved among the bridesmaids. Don’t try to get the bride to be a mediator!
When you’ve agreed to be a bridesmaid, it’s more than just an honorary title you’re taking on. Yes, you might have been chosen because you’re the closest woman in the world to the bride. But it’s also because she trusts you to be able to do what’s necessary. It’s about more than looking good on the wedding day and arranging a bachelorette. You might be asked to do a little for her as well in the form of extra requests.
Steering a smooth course
As the bridesmaid, your chief concern is as a wing-lady to a smooth wedding. This is a demanding role, with extra requests that might be surprising. You might have to be the one babysitting the photographer. You might have to bring the sewing kit to make any emergency wardrobe fixes. Or you might have to keep a list of backup vendors on you in case there are any no-shows. The most important role you have is to help deal with the stress of organizing the whole thing when the bride can’t take it all herself.
This post contains affiliate links we trust, and a few just for fun links as well! As always, all opinions are our own.
Being the second pair of eyes
The bride will have half-a-hundred ideas of what she wants for her wedding. More than once, she’s going to have trouble deciding. That’s where you come in. Note: don’t say “no” to anything she wants. Instead, help her decide between two “yeses”. If she doesn’t know what she wants, then you can also be a huge help in finding vendors for her as well.
You’ve been asked to be a bridesmaid and you know everything that is expected of you for this honored task. In fact, you know you’re going to rock the basic duties and want to step up your game. Lucky for you we know exactly what you need to do to be the best bridesmaid ever!
Be the Bride’s Eyes and Ears
“A photographer will be around most of the day, there are so many memories to capture. Having a bridesmaid who is familiar with wedding guests and can help keep things energetic, fun, and on schedule is every bride AND photographer’s dream! Having another bridesmaid on the look out for the little things the day of the wedding is also so important. Keep on eye on the bride and when she needs her bouquet held, train picked up, a tissue, makeup/hair fix. Bridesmaids have a big role of keeping the bride a priority and helping create lasting memories and beautiful photographs to look back on!” – Courtney, Owner of Courtney June Photography
Get Assistance From Professionals
“Event planners aren’t just for the bride and the wedding day. Bridesmaids can use an event planner for coordinating the bridal shower, bachelorette party, or a dress shopping brunch. A wedding planner can help you find the perfect location for the guest list, help you design a theme around the event, provide insight into cost and deals/promotions going on, and help with choosing ideal vendor partners for the event. They have experience with all types/styles of events, so utilize their expertise to help you throw a stress-free, fun event for the group.” – Jaime Engebretson. Owner of J’aime Events
Being asked to be a bridesmaid is a fantastic honor as it not only solidifies just how much your friendship means to the bride, but also that she wants you up there with her on the most romantic day of her life. However, while you’re brushing tears away from your eyes, jumping up and down and squealing over her handcrafted ‘will you be my bridesmaid’ gift box it’s all too easy to say yes! You may be thinking, well, why wouldn’t I? But it’s often only once the excitement has died down and you’ve had a chance to look through everything that you actually see just how much work goes into planning a wedding – even if you’re not the one who’s getting married!
Who Pays For What?
It’s an uncomfortable conversation for anyone but before you get busy clearing your social calendar you need to consider your finances. As we’ve said weddings aren’t cheap. You may be required to contribute a significant amount towards the event. This could include outfits, hotel costs, flights, and a gift for the happy couple. Dresses can range from $100 to $500, and the price could be even more if they’re being designed from scratch. Many brides try to keep expenses down, and often try to cover as much as they can to show their appreciation for the bridal party.
When it came time to plan the bachelorette party, we decided to host it in Atlantic City. The majority of people lived within an hour of that location, so we made a weekend out of it. Over 20 people were invited, but I was convinced I could handle all aspects of planning the bachelorette on my own. I did ask for input from the other bridesmaids, but ultimately I wanted to be the lead decision maker. I felt that was best so we could move forward in a timely fashion.
Well my friends, we had an amazing time with the 16 people who were in attendance. However, I learned a few lessons the hard way when trying to organize that many people. I would definitely do a few things different if given the chance. So to help you avoid some bachelorette party pitfalls, I’d like to share with you some do’s and dont’s for planning a weekend long trip. First up…
A you can imagine, writing a Bridesmaid blog means we need to keep up with all of the bridal shower themes that guarantee a good time. Below are our top 10 favorite showers for 2017.
Pink and Sparkly
A very popular bridal shower theme is to go with a timeless classic: pretty in pink and all things that sparkle! Some of our favorite ideas for this type of shower include sparkly table runners, balloons filled with confetti, and serving pink bubbly.
Cooking or Baking Theme
For the food loving bride give her exactly what she wants, a taste of savory appetizers with a side of sugary sweets. There are many clever ways to incorporate kitchen accessories and gadgets into this type of shower. For a fun game, be sure to have guests share their favorite recipes with the couple.