Yesterday I stumbled upon an article in the New York Post about bridesmaids and the title caught my eye: “Bridesmaids under pressure to get fit for ‘picture-perfect’ wedding day.” Before I even clicked the link, I knew I was in store for some total bull shit, and boy was I right!
The article has me livid because, spoiler alert, the brides interviewed want a perfect wedding day. That perfect day includes perfect pictures, with perfectly “fit” bridesmaids. Which means these brides see no harm in “encouraging” (yes that’s the word they use) their bridesmaids to lose weight.
Oh no she didn’t ask her to lose weight!?
I am not even kidding when I say the article contains the sentence, “even one bridesmaid who just gave birth could stand to lose a few pounds.”
Excuse our language but; you’ve got to be fucking kidding me?
Hold onto your seats though, because there is also this gem of advice from that same bride to her guests:
“I need everyone on board,” says Barton, a 30-year-old p.r. executive who lives in downtown Brooklyn. “I want my guests to invest in their appearances, feel pretty, go buy the dress of their dreams and feel confident in themselves. I want everyone to feel and look beautiful.”
So yes, some brides even think they can control what their guests look like on their special day. Extending the pressure to lose weight to anyone that attends their wedding. News flash darling, you can only control yourself.
We’ve all heard of, and fear, a Bridezilla. You know, a bride who wants everything her way and will make everyone’s life around her a nightmare if it doesn’t happen. On the flip side there is also the term Bridechilla, referring to a bride so chill that she just lets the day unfold around her with no complaints. A new term that you may not have heard: Bridesmaidzilla.
For the purposes of this article we are defining Bridesmaidzilla as a Bridesmaid who, knowingly or not, makes the wedding day about them. They’re extremely rude in general and usually cause lots of unnecessary drama. Don’t worry though, we’re here to tell you stories so you can figure out if you have the potential to be a Bridesmaidzilla, and if so, how to avoid it.
This is a guest post from Jennifer Morrow, blogger at 2morrows Dress.
In my 20’s I was a serial Bridesmaid. Every couple of months (or more) some friend or family member was getting married. Often I was a Bridesmaid, or I had some role in the Wedding. Here are a few of the wackiest requests that I received from Brides.
Short Hair, Bride Cared
A good friend from college announced her engagement and asked me to be a Bridesmaid, with one tiny request. I had short hair. Really short. At the time it was chin length, and had been various shorter styles for all the years that she knew me. All of the other Bridesmaids had long hair, at least past their shoulders. With 11 months notice before the wedding, the Bride asked me to grow out my hair so that all of the Bridesmaids could have matching updo hairstyles. So I did. The day after her wedding, my hair was cut 8 inches, back above my chin.
Grew my hair out. What do you think? Like it now?
I love pictures. I’m plagued with a poor memory, but once I have a picture in hand or on the computer screen something shifts in my mind and I am back in that day, experiencing it again. Due to this, I took a ton of bridal shower pictures and others at all my sister’s wedding-related events.
My sister’s bridal shower was on June 15, 2013 and I took 386 pictures. I took a lot of candid shots because they show the true emotion of a situation, so I lean towards them. Plus I got posed shots of her with each of the guests. Then I got a shot of her opening each present, and trying food, and laughing with the other bridesmaids. Of course, I got a shot of my mom chatting with my sister’s future mother-in-law and of a bridesmaid organizing the food on the table. After, I got shots of the co-ed BBQ that occurred later, of my cousins cracking up on the porch. I captured some sweet moments between my sister and her future husband, one eating off the other’s plate here, stealing a kiss there, and lots of them laughing together.
At times I even put the camera into double shot mode, in which two photo are taken in succession, once with flash and once without, so we knew we would have a good end result, one way or another.
Then I promptly lost the camera.