How To Make Sure You Avoid Wedding Chaos
Planning a wedding is stressful, but it really doesn’t have to be. If you really want to, you can avoid wedding chaos, and it’s as simple as how you look at things. Are you sure that you are focusing on the right things? To help us explore this topic, we asked Colleen of O’Neil Events to share some of her wedding experiences.
My name is Colleen O’Neil, and I am the owner of O’Neil Events, a DC Wedding Planning company specializing in Day of Wedding planning. My favorite part of wedding planning is all the smiles! I know that is so cliche, but it’s the truth! There is nothing like seeing the couple see each other for the first time on their wedding day. Emotions (aka stress) is always the highest right before the ceremony, but something happens are soon as that ceremony begins. I can see the stress and worry melt away.
Trying to Avoid Wedding Chaos
When it comes to weddings, I’ve seen a lot! One wedding, we had an issue with the cake. It was so warm in the room, the icing started to get soft, and the layers were starting to move. I knew I only had a few minutes to make a move before the cake was on the ground. So we just cut the cake during the salad course! I mean, why not? Since everyone was already seated, getting the guest’s attention to cut the cake was easy. Then we were able to whisk the cake into the backroom before anything happened!
When I have had issues with people involved, I have tried to distract by taking away attention from the drama. Find a way to have everyone else focus on something else, especially the bride. You always want to make sure she is happy, and avoid wedding chaos from happening. I will pull the bride away and get her involved with something to bring her back to a happy place!
Let Go of Little Issues
So how do you avoid wedding chaos and stay in your happy place? I tell my brides to remember that your guest has no idea how everything is “supposed” to look or flow. You will notice that the flower arrangement you wanted for the card table is now on the dessert table. Guess who has no idea? Any of your guest! All your guest are going to remember is how happy you look and how much fun they are having. If you don’t worry or get upset, neither will your guest! Only you know all of those specific details, so let it go and focus on enjoying your day.
I have been a bridesmaid three times so far, and each experience has been fantastic and also so different. I enjoyed being a bridesmaid, but it was also challenging for me. As a planner, I am used to being in charge and making the decisions. When you are in a wedding party, everything is a shared responsibility, and not one person is really “in charge.” It can get tricky because everyone has different ideas (and budgets). Overall, I was lucky because I enjoyed the girls that were in the various bridal parties with me. Many were friends before the wedding which did make the planning of the activities a bit easier!
Personally, I’ve never seen any significant drama, just some “polite” drama as I like to call it. All of the different bridesmaids are trying to nicely convince the other bridesmaids why their idea is the best idea. And sometimes people take not using their suggestions personally. There can be a lot of eye-rolling, and side comments made. Everyone needs to keep in mind, emotions are also high for the bridal party. Most of any actual drama is between the siblings. Isn’t that always how it goes?!
Everyone needs to be able to go with the flow. Keep in mind that every decision should be with the bride in mind. You are there to help the bride make her day as stress-free as possible. If there is every any drama between the bridesmaids, make sure the bride doesn’t find out!
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