3 Ways to Help Calm a Stressed Bride
Everyone knows that weddings are stressful for brides. Fewer people consider the toll they take on us bridesmaids. Bridesmaid life is far from an easy ride. As well as giving her the bridal shower of her dreams and helping with those small touches, your role has a crucial underlying focus. However, the bride has a lot more to get her head around and it can take a toll on her welling being. For that reason, it’s important to know how to calm a stressed bride. You are, ultimately, her therapist during the preparation stages.
It’s no easy task. A bride can be a difficult person to handle at the best of times, and in the worst of times, she really needs someone to lean on. The good news is, there are some tried and tested methods you can fall back on. Each of which should help keep your bride happy when wedding stress rears its ugly head. The following pointers may not get you a counseling PhD. They will, however, qualify you to pursue your bridesmaid role.
Let Her Talk
Sometimes, we just need to talk. Isn’t that what therapy is about? We’ve all seen it in the films, right? The therapist nods and asks questions while their patient reaches revelations galore. Put the theory to practice and you may be surprised by the results.
Next time you notice the bride having a meltdown about which white wedding invitations would send the right message, let her talk her way to a solution. Ask leading questions such as, “what message are you trying to send?” Or, “what shade did you have in mind?” As well as making you look like the most collected bridesmaid ever, this should guide her towards an answer. The same process can help her find the right dress, and even settle on a venue.
A word of caution though; don’t offer your opinions or advice unless the bride asks for it! She’s already getting a world of unsolicited advice from every person that hears she’s engaged. From her mom to that cousin she hasn’t talked to in 5 years, everyone has their thoughts on how the big day should go. It’s annoying, to say the least, so don’t add fuel to the fire of that drama.
It may seem crazy simple, but laughing releases chemicals which help us feel better. Take it upon yourself to make the bride laugh whenever she freaks out. Next time you see the caught-in-headlights fear in her eyes, do your best to make her giggle. You could keep a few jokes up your sleeve for the occasion. Or, you could fall back on inside jokes which never fail to amuse. However you do it, get her laughing!
Every bride could do with a little calming now and again. Especially after Aunt Bertha just called to ask if her dog can come to the wedding. And that high school friend wants to bring someone to the wedding they started dating 2 weeks ago. The list of reasons goes on and on…
The good news is there are many things to try and despite popular belief, the majority of them don’t take long. For those stressful moments on the go, develop breathing exercises to keep things calm. You could also practice ten-minute meditations together. For those days when the stress is just too firmly in place (seriously Aunt Bertha, Fido can’t come), you could book her in for spa sessions. Or, if you’re feeling adventurous, you could try that new yoga class the brides been wanting to forever. That’s bridesmaid dedication for you!
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