Simple Tips for a Drama Free Wedding Day
It’s hard to believe it has been over a year since my sister got married! Her wedding was a gorgeous destination wedding in Cape May, NJ at the Hotel Alcott. It honestly went very smoothly. A few hiccups like all weddings, but nothing to cause a major headache. Some of that was in part to having a really easy going bridal party. So today I’m sharing with you a few tips to help create a drama free wedding day.
Don’t Drink Too Much the Night Before
Most couples have their rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding. It is tradition that the groom’s parents pay for this meal, and many times alcohol is served. As lovely as it is to have someone treat you to dinner and drinks, don’t go overboard. If you do, you run the risk of embarrassing yourself and upsetting the couple.
At Christina and Jim’s rehearsal dinner, I had a really great time. The food was delicious, the drinks were flowing, and the conversations were fun. I should’ve stopped there, but we took the after party back to the hotel.
Nothing crazy happened, and thankfully I didn’t wake up with a complete hangover. I was just tired and a little dehydrated. A total blessing really, because having a hangover on wedding day is no fun at all. I made sure to drink plenty of water and eat a large breakfast.
Be Willing to Help
The day of the wedding involves a lot of people and a lot of moving pieces. Make sure to stay in the loop of the days activities, and offer help where you can. The bride may have vendors that are doing setup and timeline management, but that doesn’t mean she won’t have a few extra tasks you can assist with.
I remember going to the front desk at the hotel the morning of the wedding and asking if we could have food brought up to the bridal suite. I knew that we would be rushing around after breakfast. We were going to the salon to get hair and makeup, and pictures started shortly after that. I wanted to make sure nobody was ‘hangry’ or worse, ended up passing out halfway down the aisle.
Something all the bridesmaids assisted with was making sure Jim and Christina didn’t see each other before the first look. They were getting ready on the same floor only a few rooms down from each other. We did hallway checks or ran errands for my sister so she didn’t have to leave her room. Running errands also helped make sure the bride wasn’t feeling rushed leading up to the day’s major events. Plus we helped her get ready, a time honored bridesmaid tradition!
Listen to the Couple’s Wishes
When I did my first look on wedding day, a lot of my friends and family ended up watching. It wasn’t something I planned, but it also didn’t bother me either. Taking a cue from my wedding day, my sister let everyone know her and Jim wanted this to be a private moment.
The hotel she was married in was a historic site with about 40 rooms. So it wasn’t too surprising that some friends and family were hanging around in the lobby. Before my sister headed down to see her groom, the photographer went and helped clear everyone out. As tempting as it was to try and sneak a peek of this moment, I waited upstairs with the other two bridesmaids. In the end they had their wishes respected, and we all got to enjoy the first look later through photos
Be Where You Are Supposed to Be
This is a big one that I constantly tell everyone in the bridal party. Be where you are supposed to be at all times. If you’re not sure, then ask! The couple is probably having some jitters and you don’t want to stress them out. There is nothing worse than trying to get everyone ready for pictures and realizing someone is missing.
Since this was the second wedding for our family, I think everyone knew the drill. Once the first look was over everyone was in the lobby waiting to be directed for pictures. It was really a no fuss bridal party, and I’m sure my sister was thankful for that!
Just Have Fun!
Remember, being relaxed and having fun helps the couple loosen up. A lot of time, money, and planning go into a wedding. If you have no assigned tasks, make it your goal to make the couple laugh. They asked you to be in their wedding for a reason, so they obviously want you to enjoy in the day with them.
I sure did have a fun time at my sister’s wedding, and it seems like everyone else did too!