Extra Requests You Might Want To Expect As A Bridesmaid

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When you’ve agreed to be a bridesmaid, it’s more than just an honorary title you’re taking on. Yes, you might have been chosen because you’re the closest woman in the world to the bride. But it’s also because she trusts you to be able to do what’s necessary. It’s about more than looking good on the wedding day and arranging a bachelorette. You might be asked to do a little for her as well in the form of extra requests.

Extra Requests You Might Want to Expect as a Bridesmaid

Steering a smooth course

As the bridesmaid, your chief concern is as a wing-lady to a smooth wedding. This is a demanding role, with extra requests that might be surprising. You might have to be the one babysitting the photographer. You might have to bring the sewing kit to make any emergency wardrobe fixes. Or you might have to keep a list of backup vendors on you in case there are any no-shows. The most important role you have is to help deal with the stress of organizing the whole thing when the bride can’t take it all herself.

Bridesmaid holding a bouquet

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Being the second pair of eyes

The bride will have half-a-hundred ideas of what she wants for her wedding. More than once, she’s going to have trouble deciding. That’s where you come in. Note: don’t say “no” to anything she wants. Instead, help her decide between two “yeses”. If she doesn’t know what she wants, then you can also be a huge help in finding vendors for her as well.

Making a show of yourself

There are some parts of the wedding that are going to involve you in a more ceremonial role. It might be a reading or giving a speech. Unless you’re utterly petrified, it might be a good idea to find some public speaking groups that can help you get over those pre-speech nerves. It’s likely you’re going to be involved in the first or second dance, too. Make sure you know what’s going to be asked of you. If it’s a ballroom dancing affair, then you’re going to want lessons beforehand, for instance. It might be a little embarrassing to think of, but it tends to be one of the more memorable experiences of being a bridesmaid. After all, you won’t be getting any more attention than the bride, unless you fall flat on your face. Which is exactly why you want those lessons in the first place!

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Clearing those jitters

A bride’s head can be a mess on the morning of the big day. Doubts and fears and worries will all come to the top in a flood of jitters. It can be hard to deal with an emotional torrent like that, but it’s your job to clear those nerves. For instance, help them think about something else. Share some nostalgic memories. If they involve the groom, even better.  

Every bride wants their big day to be perfect and you should be there to help with that. However, knowing your boundaries is important. Don’t agree to anything that you honestly find objectionable. Hopefully, the bride isn’t the kind of person who would actually have the gall to pressure you to lose weight. If that’s the case, then being firm might help them get over the need-to-control that even the most placid of brides can sometimes get into.


What do you think of these tips? Have you ever been asked to go above and beyond as a bridesmaid? Share with us in the comments.

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  • Ashley
    Reply

    Great list! Being a bridesmaid is a lot more than wearing a dress!

    • bridesmaidsconfession
      Reply

      Agreed! So much more than that.

  • Sharon
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    My sister was my bridesmaid and I can definitely say that she did all of those things! But most of all, she was my smoother. She handled all the “tough” stuff so it wouldn’t stress me out. My angel, for sure!

    • bridesmaidsconfession
      Reply

      Awww. That is so sweet. Sounds like your sister was an amazing bridesmaid.

  • Jessica Bradshaw
    Reply

    So true! Great list. My husband is a wedding photog and I have seen all of these first hand.

    • bridesmaidsconfession
      Reply

      Weddings are unpredictable. Hopefully everyone can go with the flow.

  • Kaitlin
    Reply

    Being a bridesmaid is sooo fun, but also comes with a lot of responsibilities! I love your thought on being prepared with a list of the vendors!

    – Kaitlin
    kedgotwed.com

    • bridesmaidsconfession
      Reply

      You never know what’s going to happen! If the bride has a wedding planner than they’ve got this covered. If they don’t, then stepping up in this way is surely going above and beyond.

  • Ritu
    Reply

    A bridesmaid’s duties are endless lol! But fun~!

    • bridesmaidsconfession
      Reply

      So true! Excited for my best friend’s bachelorette party that is coming up this week.

  • Noelle
    Reply

    I’ve never been a bridesmaid, but my sister fulfilled all of her duties and more, would have been lost without her!

    • bridesmaidsconfession
      Reply

      That’s great to hear!

  • Debbie
    Reply

    Great ideas here for bridesmaids.

    • bridesmaidsconfession
      Reply

      Thanks Deb!

  • Jenna Urben
    Reply

    I’m the matron of honor at my best friend’s wedding next year and I’ve never been a bridesmaid before. These are great to know, thanks for sharing!

    • bridesmaidsconfession
      Reply

      You’re welcome! Hope you have an amazing MOH experience.

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