Extra Requests You Might Want To Expect As A Bridesmaid
When you’ve agreed to be a bridesmaid, it’s more than just an honorary title you’re taking on. Yes, you might have been chosen because you’re the closest woman in the world to the bride. But it’s also because she trusts you to be able to do what’s necessary. It’s about more than looking good on the wedding day and arranging a bachelorette. You might be asked to do a little for her as well in the form of extra requests.
Steering a smooth course
As the bridesmaid, your chief concern is as a wing-lady to a smooth wedding. This is a demanding role, with extra requests that might be surprising. You might have to be the one babysitting the photographer. You might have to bring the sewing kit to make any emergency wardrobe fixes. Or you might have to keep a list of backup vendors on you in case there are any no-shows. The most important role you have is to help deal with the stress of organizing the whole thing when the bride can’t take it all herself.
Being the second pair of eyes
The bride will have half-a-hundred ideas of what she wants for her wedding. More than once, she’s going to have trouble deciding. That’s where you come in. Note: don’t say “no” to anything she wants. Instead, help her decide between two “yeses”. If she doesn’t know what she wants, then you can also be a huge help in finding vendors for her as well.
Making a show of yourself
There are some parts of the wedding that are going to involve you in a more ceremonial role. It might be a reading or giving a speech. Unless you’re utterly petrified, it might be a good idea to find some public speaking groups that can help you get over those pre-speech nerves. It’s likely you’re going to be involved in the first or second dance, too. Make sure you know what’s going to be asked of you. If it’s a ballroom dancing affair, then you’re going to want lessons beforehand, for instance. It might be a little embarrassing to think of, but it tends to be one of the more memorable experiences of being a bridesmaid. After all, you won’t be getting any more attention than the bride, unless you fall flat on your face. Which is exactly why you want those lessons in the first place!
Clearing those jitters
A bride’s head can be a mess on the morning of the big day. Doubts and fears and worries will all come to the top in a flood of jitters. It can be hard to deal with an emotional torrent like that, but it’s your job to clear those nerves. For instance, help them think about something else. Share some nostalgic memories. If they involve the groom, even better.
Every bride wants their big day to be perfect and you should be there to help with that. However, knowing your boundaries is important. Don’t agree to anything that you honestly find objectionable. Hopefully, the bride isn’t the kind of person who would actually have the gall to pressure you to lose weight. If that’s the case, then being firm might help them get over the need-to-control that even the most placid of brides can sometimes get into.
What do you think of these tips? Have you ever been asked to go above and beyond as a bridesmaid? Share with us in the comments.